{Marriage Monday} Just the 3 of us…

Ecclesiastes 4:12

Today’s {Marriage Monday} is focused on spouses agreeing on a similar faith and allowing God to be a part of that relationship. I’ve been blessed with a hubby who has always, even while dating, wanted to attend church with me.  So, tonight’s post won’t be directly from personal experiences…but I will do my best to answer these questions from a follower.

Do you and your hubby share the same spiritual beliefs?

Yes, my husband and I share the same spiritual beliefs. We both attend a non-denominational church called New Heights Church in our hometown and base our beliefs strictly off of God’s word. The bible views marriage as a sacred commitment to your spouse and to God. Once God is at the center, your marriage will be so much stronger.

Any advice for someone whose husband’s beliefs are different from yours?

If you are finding yourself longing for your spouse to attend church or to be open to your religion…here are 3 pieces that could fill your faith puzzle:

1. Be supportive.  As a wife, the last thing your hubby probably wants is nagging. Let him know you are praying for him. Invite him every week to go to visit your church…maybe start with a Wednesday or Saturday evening so it sounds a little more laid back to him.Visit his church if asks you to show him you are willing to support him in a difficult situation.

2. Be open. Make this issue known. Have a conversation with faith as the topic. Break down the reasons you believe the way you do and vise-versa for him. Make a list of similarities and differences your faiths may have and focus on the most important reasons for being part of your religion. Once you have made your list, pray for God’s guidance together.

3. Be steadfast.  Don’t give up on him. Your main goal should be to get your spouse to Heaven so you can spend eternity together. Focus on him asking Jesus to be his personal Savior. If your hubby doesn’t seem interested, keep praying. Show him why choosing for Jesus to be in your heart was the most important decision you’ve made in your life.  Once he sees how God works in your everyday situations, he may come around.  If not, continue praying and God will comfort you in your time of need.

What do you do when children are in the “separate faith in marriage” picture?

When children are added to the equation, I would be consistent in raising them to God’s expectations.  Proverbs 22:6 says, “Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.” Whether you have your spouse’s support or not, you have little minds that are easily molded.  Talk with your spouse about the teachings you feel are important for your kids to understand and apply to their own lives as they grow.  No matter the feelings or opinions you and your spouse have, your one topic to agree on should be the souls of your children.

In a nutshell…
If God is found at the center of your marriage, any storms you face together will be much easier to withstand.  I recommend researching a bible study to do together if you cannot agree on a similar faith, because no matter the religion…the foundation should be the Word of God. If you are struggling with getting your spouse in a pew, take baby steps…introduce him to God by the way you live your life first. Once your hubby watches how God works in your day, he may become more open to your ideas about faith. When it comes to expanding your family, my opinion is that the situation changes. You cannot change the religious background your spouse has, but you do have the opportunity to lay a solid foundation of faith within your children.  Just remember that no matter your situation, God will see you through. Keep your faith steady, your hope positive, and your love compassionate.

God Bless You & Your Marriage,



  1. December 10, 2012 / 10:59 pm

    Love this Jessica!! I appreciate all the advise. DH and I met in church, and while my faith has increased, his has taken a back seat. Baby steps and lots of prayers have gotten us TO church together, the rest is in God’s hands!!

  2. December 11, 2012 / 1:05 pm

    Your so spot on, love this! You are so encouraging, I love visiting your site! Precious, thank you for sharing this.


  3. December 12, 2012 / 8:30 pm

    @ Gretchen, you are very right… baby steps! Keep trusting God!

    @ Adrienne, thank you so much for always being so supportive!!!

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