{Jessica 31} Words of Affirmation

I’ve been stalking Sara Horn, the author of my new fave book “My So-Called Life as a Proverbs 31 Wife.” She has 2 websites/blogs, one for her, one for her Proverbs 31 life.
 http://www.sarahorn.com/blog-2/ http://www.myproverbs31life.com/

I found a post she had written about the 5 love languages. She challenged readers to take the quiz. {You can find it here: http://www.5lovelanguages.com/assessments/love/} I woman’d up and clicked on the link to see what my score would be.  Below is what I scored on the Wife Love quiz.

  • 10 out of 12 for Words of Affirmation
  • 8 out of 12 for Quality Time
  • 0 out of 12 for Receiving Gifts
  • 3 out of 12 for Acts of Service
  • 9 out of 12 for Physical Touch

I believe I scored higher on Words of Affirmation than any other because my husband is a very quiet and reserved man.  When he gives me compliments or tells me how he feels about me he really means it.  He isn’t one to just tell me something because I want to hear it. Since reading this book and being in God’s Word more, I feel a hunger to reciprocate these things towards him.  Like I have said before, I have OCS {Only Child Syndrome}… It’s very easy for me to focus on things I want hear, things I want to get, things I want to do, etc… My husband is the type of man that goes with the flow and will do just about anything to see his family smile. I want to be like that.

Example: Every time we go to St. Louis we eat at Olive Garden, because I’m obsessed. Not his favorite, but he has learned to love it too. He would like to eat at the 125,000 other restaurants in the city, though. ha! Now that I think about it, most of my selfish ways are magnified with food! I hardly ever let him have a bite of my food, I hate sharing yummy treats! Don’t judge me.

This is just another part of my {Jessica 31} journey. I am not the best at giving others Words of Affirmation even though that’s how I would like to be shown love. Another goal added: “she brings him good not harm, all the days of her life” -Proverbs 31:12  I don’t know why I don’t share kind words more often.  I think of sharing kind words in my head and then by the time I try to spit them out it is too late.  Something inside me feels like it is a weakness to show people that side. I have always been an athlete with a strong, tough, nothing can break me attitude.  I am currently a teacher and am always labeled the strict one out of our rotation of teachers.  I feel like I am a no nonsense type of a woman at work. {Don’t get me wrong, I am the first one to want to ride a rollercoaster, crack a joke, etc…} But there is something inside me that thinks too long and hard about outwardly expressing kind thoughts. It’s not like I don’t, but I could definitely do this more often.

Fantasy Factory, you know the show about Rob Dyrdek’s crazy fun extravaganzas, happened to be on in the background while I was doing my wifely/motherly duties yesterday afternoon.  It was the episode where LA made February 1, 2012 “Rob Dyrdek Day.” Because of this, Rob had to come up with monumental slogan/theme for this special day.  He ended up declaring that everything reflect on this:

Did You Really Do Everything Kind?????

It’s funny how God works. I didn’t know I would be taking this 5 love languages quiz today… I had no idea I was really paying attention to this little crazy dude on tv yesterday, but God did. God knows. God does. God is.

She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. -Proverbs 31:26 {ESV}


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